Tony’s naked relationship analysis tool is very simple. However; before you use it remember one thing... Even knowing about this tool may cause you to end harmful relationships that you never would have ended before. This simple analysis can cause you to see things in a clear way and cause you to loose sleep.
Another name for it is the Naked Mirror Test. Here is how it works. Picture yourself in a mirror. You are stripped completely naked. Not just physically but psychologically as well. None of the lies you tell yourself about yourself are here in this picture. Take a good look. Turn yourself around and then inside out and see yourself, completely.
Now make an evaluation. Evaluate your body, mind and spirit. In this condition if there are things you do not like you owe it to, even if, no one other than yourself to change them. You absolutely cannot use anything that someone has said to you or any outside pressures to make this evaluation. It must be all from you and about you.
Here comes the relationship part. Now, just like you are in that mirror place the friend or relationship that you are pondering right next to you in the mirror. Strip them of their shells just like you did yourself and look at the two of you in the mirror. Now ask yourself one simple question. Stop reading right now if you don’t want to live with this the rest of your life.
With them in the picture, do you feel better or do you feel worse about yourself. If the answer is worse you have no choice but to extricate, no matter how painful it is, them from your life. If the answer is better then examine it and work on fine tuning the good parts of that relationship.
I lost what I thought was a very good friend that I had had for years using this tool. Harmful relationships are just that. Harmful. Surround yourself with people who invigorate and inspire you, not those who tear you down.
Careful looking into that mirror.
Tony Hines,
March 26th 2008
1 comment:
Hi Tony: Good analogy but I'm wondering what is on the other side of that naked mirror? Like your blog. mc
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