School Shooting Because of Neutered Men

Why are we so violent?  I believe it is the direct result of the feminization of American and the world at large.  Before you fly off into triggered land hear me out.  We tell boys they cannot be boys.  They cant have playground fights, no one is allowed to win or lose and we give everyone a trophy even if they do lose.

It starts well before that though with this totally destructive Dr. Spock lunacy about spanking children.  If you beat your kids there is a warm place in hell for you so please don’t conflate spanking with beating.  We have basically told our children there is no need to compete, no need for boys to be boys and there is no consequences for failure or irrational behavior.

Aggression and competitiveness are all parts of the male psyche.  I know many women who are very competitive as well but we’re talking about boys for the this exercise.  The feminization of men has told them that the last million years of evolution that made them who they are is invalid.  Who they were born and have evolved to be is irrelevant they must be passive, feminized and less, well…  Male.

The thing that made me believe in this theory even more strongly than ever before was the person who I had this conversation with who vehemently disagreed with me.  He was a successful gay man in his late forties or early fifties.  I have known this fellow for decades and he is a regular, well-adjusted and gainfully employed person.

As I exclaimed that you can’t go telling boys that they can’t be boys because it frustrates and confuses the hell out of them he was telling me that was ridiculous and then it hit me and I asked a question that cemented my theory on this forever.  It occurred to me that just being a boy and just being gay might be very similar things.  I asked him what his life was like before he came out?  Before he admitted to himself and the world who he was born to be?  He started to answer and then fell silent. Then almost under his breath he said, “Oh my god!” and repeated it three times. “Oh my god!” “Oh my god!” “Oh my god!”

He explained that when he was coming of age gay was not nearly as well accepted as it is now and it was pretty terrifying to tell family and friends so he fought it with everything he had and he tried everything from dating girls to religious conversions and all sorts of things and just became more and more frustrated and nearly suicidal.

I asked him after that if he thought telling boys they can’t be who they were born to be could be part of the problem.  He still didn’t really agree with me but he totally understood the angle I was coming from. If a man is born gay or straight he is also born with many other characteristics that should not be bottled up and suppressed any more than his sexuality. Sexuality is very close to the id and is the strongest drive in any human but what other drives are there that should be cultivated rather than repressed?

No one is advocating “Lord of the Flies” but maybe boys need to be boys.  Maybe young men need discipline, clear definition of right and wrong and they need to be challenged.  They need to win.  They need to lose and they need to know the difference.  The need to feel the pain of losing and the joy of winning.  They need to understand that when they lose it is their fault and that if they want to win they have to work harder and learn and practice. 

When I was growing up we had John Wayne.  He was the good guy.  The other were the bad guy and it was very clear what was right or wrong.  We fought like animals, we ARE animals by the way and we never really harmed each other.  We hurt each other but rarely a lasting scar.  Normally after all this mortal combat we became great friends with our momentary foes. 

In the high school parking lot there was a dozen trucks with loaded guns in the gun rack and the doors were never locked.  We never thought about shooting each other.  We knew right from wrong and we knew what consequences were.  The first time we were told no or spanked for being stupid was so long ago we didn’t even remember it but the lessons were engrained.

We were disciplined, we didn’t talk back to our teachers and god forbid our parents.  We got paddled at school and knew we were at fault and why we got in trouble.  No one came and rescued us either.  I got whipped with a belt at home if I got paddled in school.  Now we don’t paddle kids we put them in time out and they sit in time out steaming and simmering and just get angrier and angrier.

Human nature is a strong force and while it can be corralled it cannot be buried and forgotten.  It existed before there was conservatism, liberalism or feminism and it will exist when all of those theories have long gone.  Boys need to be boys and parents need to grow up and do what is right for their kids not wat is easiest and shuts them up for the longest time.